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10 THINGS PARENTS SHOULD NEVER DO

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10 THINGS PARENTS SHOULD NEVER DO

Posted: May 2, 2019 8:50 am

If you love your children and want to help them grow into stable, thoughtful, productive, loving adults, here are 10 things you should avoid doing.

1. IGNORE THEIR BRAIN.

Their brain controls everything they do—how they think, how they behave, how they relate to others. When their brain works right, they work right. When they have trouble in their brain, they have trouble in their life. And if they have trouble in their life, you have trouble in your life. Leading edge brain imaging technology called SPECT shows the health of the brain. In the images below, you can see a healthy brain, a brain damaged by trauma (such as falling off a bike), and the brain of someone with ADD/ADHD. Seeing is believing. If you want your child to be their best, you have to take care of their brain and teach them how to do so.

Healthy SPECT Brain Scan: full, symmetrical activity

Head Trauma: damage to right frontal lobe

Classic ADD/ADHD: low activity in prefrontal cortex

2. RARELY SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH THEM.

Relationships require special time. The most effective exercise you can do is spend 20 minutes of quality time a day with your child—listening and doing something they want to do (within reason).

3. BE A POOR LISTENER.

When your kids are trying to talk to you, don’t speak over them. Learn to be an active listener. Let them say their piece and then repeat back what you heard so they know you have heard them.

4. USE NAME CALLING.

Don’t tell your child, “You’re a spoiled brat.” This is not helpful, and they will internalize these negative names and begin to believe them.

5. BE OVERLY PERMISSIVE.

Letting your child do whatever they want may make them “happy” in the moment, but it can be detrimental in the long run. Children need clear boundaries. Kids who have the most psychological problems usually have parents who didn’t set boundaries for them. Be firm and be kind.

6. FAIL TO SUPERVISE THEM.

The human brain’s frontal lobes—which are involved in planning, judgment, and impulse control—are not fully developed until about age 25. You need to be your children’s frontal lobes until theirs develop. This means checking in on what your kids are doing and with whom they are doing it. This doesn’t mean being a helicopter parent, it means you care.

7. DO AS I SAY, NOT AS A I DO.

If you’re a poor role model, your kids will pick up on that and follow your lead. If you say, “eat your vegetables” but you constantly snack on candy or potato chips, they will likely opt for the foods they see you eating.

8. ONLY NOTICE WHAT THEY DO WRONG.

Try to notice when your kids do things you like—cleaning up their room, finishing their homework, or brushing their teeth.

9. IGNORE THEIR MENTAL HEALTH ISSUES.

On average, it takes 11 years from the time kids develop symptoms of a mental health condition to first evaluation. This is just wrong. Struggling with symptoms of ADD/ADHD or anxiety and depression can negatively impact their ability to succeed in school, in their friendships, and in life.

10. IGNORE YOUR OWN MENTAL HEALTH.

If you are suffering from a mental health condition—whether it’s PTSD, bipolar disorder, or something else—it can devastate your children. Remember the saying, “Put your own oxygen mask on first.” You need to take care of yourself and be the best version of yourself to be the best parent.

At Amen Clinics, we have helped thousands of parents and children enhance their brain health and improve their performance at work, at school, and in relationships. If you or your child are struggling with a mental health issue or consequences of head trauma, schedule a visit or call 855-972-4857.

Top 10 Characteristics of Best Teachers

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Listen to TEACHERS MAKE A DIFFERENCE

1.Passionate: You feel strongly about what you as a teacher. You don’t see it as a “job” – you see it as a calling, a part of your purpose.

2. Kind-hearted: You genuinely want to make a positive impact on people from a place of empathy, compassion and love

3. Confident: You can enter into the room standing tall because you have a strong inner perception and knowing of your capability as a teacher.

4. Present: You are fully present and engaged when teaching. You’re aware of what’s going on in the room and use that information to coach, be flexible and provide the best possible experience, moment by moment

5. Authentic: You understand the importance of and are courageous enough to be yourself. You understand that, when they show up in the fullness of who you are, it gives others permission to do the same.

6. Engaging: You are a human connector and enjoy building relationships with people. Because of your willingness to genuinely connect with your students, you make feel good about themselves when in your classes.

7. Positive: You take a positive approach when teaching and are known for having an “optimistic disposition”. When things go wrong, as they sometimes do, you roll with it, staying upbeat and knowing everything will be okay.

8. Inspired: You are inspired from the inside to teach as opposed to being motivated from some external influence. Because of this, teaching fills your cup instead of draining you because you thrive on lifting others up.

9. Growth-focused: You always consider yourself a “student first”. Not only are you foundationally trained/certified, you continually stay open and on the lookout for opportunities that will provide more learning and growth. And you consistently “evaluate and evolve”.

10. Self-Aware: You know who you are and what inspires you. This allows you to be grounded and at peace from within. And, for this reason, you know to prioritize self-care first to ensure you’re a healthy role model for others.

 

Thank you Kimberly Spring-Glick Kimberly@makeadifference.com for the lesson!

Thank you Carmine Gagnor for this contribution.